Connecting With Your Teen
How to Communicate with Teens Today
Communicate with Teens
Some parents think that communicating with your teen today is more difficult than ever. Take a more positive, tech-friendly approach and you may find many new ways to communicate with teens. You may even end up thinking it's easier than ever to keep the lines of communication open.
Texting Your Teen
Our cell phones have become part of us. Something we just can't seem to live without. Go beyond using it as a way to communicate with your teen. It’s today’s equivalent of tucking a note into their lunch box. Send them a text message just because. Not a reminder to come home on time, or questioning where they are. Send them an “I love you,” “I’m thinking of you,” or “I miss you” message. Who knows, you might just get one back in return.
Instant Messaging, or using IM, is another great way to be accessible to your teen. Let them know you can always be in touch this way and that you are willing to communicate the way they are most comfortable.
Swapping Tunes with Your Teen
This one is super easy and if you're not already doing it, start now. Buy an iTunes gift card for you and one for your teen. Each of you creates a playlist that introduces the other person to their favorite songs. Make a deal that both of you will listen to the entire playlist, at least once, without any criticism. You might be surprised by who ends up liking the other person's songs more.
Teens Want It All Now
Teens are not only accustomed to getting information on demand, they expect it and may not be satisfied with waiting. These expectations can teach them things like being fiscally responsible by managing their money.
Most banks have a wealth of automated services, and many of them are free to young clients. Teach them how to view and download financial information from their bank directly into easy-to-use budgeting software. You will be starting them off on the right road to financial success later in life.
Surfing With Your Teen
From a young age, teens today have discovered the Internet can provide them with just about any piece of information they are looking for. Use that to your advantage. Take time to sit together when a question comes up that you both need answered. Find the sports statistic you are debating, or get the latest celebrity news together. The wonderful thing about the Internet is that you are guaranteed there will be something for everyone.
You can even work in some teaching moments while surfing the net without it being obvious. Discuss with your teen the difference between reliable and unreliable sources of information. Explain to them that some information on the Internet is posted by individuals who may or may not have authority over what they have written. Teach them why Wikipedia is useful, but shouldn’t necessarily be relied upon for research papers.
Be the Student, Not the Teacher
Face it, our teens know a lot more about technology than we do. Use that to your advantage. Ask them for help. If they see you asking, it may encourage them to ask you for help when they need it.
Have them explain something about technology that would help you communicate better. Both of you will win. You will learn something new in the world of today's technology and they will see that you are human too.
Together you can learn from each other and communicate better.